How to stop your relationship struggles (Yes! All of them!)

Speaking at Dayton Out Loud

Speaking at Dayton Out Loud

What are the relationships you have the most trouble with? Parents? Partners? Other family members? Do your coworkers bring way too much stress? Are your friends always triggering drama? Or, like way too many of us, is your worst relationship with the one person you can never get away from: yourself?

Wherever your biggest problems lie, there’s a few simple tools I can’t wait to share with you to help flip things around!

Because the truth is: nobody escapes relationship problems. It’s part of being human! (And here’s my absolutely favorite secret: relationship problems can be one of the very best parts.)

If you’re lucky, you grew up with a family and community that helped you build the life skills you need to turn conflicts and differences into opportunities for healing and connection. If you weren’t so lucky (like most people), you now have the frustrating, fantastic, infuriating and funny opportunity to learn those skills as an adult.

What are these skills? Some are pretty obvious. You probably know them and practice them pretty well already. Be kind. Don’t steal. Don’t call people names. Don’t hit. If you need a brush-up, I highly recommend re-reading Robert Fulghum’s All I Really Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten.

But other skills take a little further delving. Healthy communication. What’s that look like? Maintaining good boundaries. What are those? What do I do if someone tramples them? Staying present for grief — our own and others’. Whoa, how many people just felt a serious urge to run out of the room? Quick, let’s move on to my personal favorite skill: Committing to making your highest vision a reality. Yes. That’s a possible thing.

If you’re ready to stop the cycles of disconnection and disappointment in your life, congratulations. You’ve come to the right place. For more than 20 years, I’ve been working with people of all ages to help them experience safety, joy and hope in their relationships with themselves and others. (Want more details? Say “Open sesame” and visit my About Ria page.)

– First, download my free, easy-to-follow guide to Creating Safe Space in ANY Relationship. (Sorry for the tease. Hang in there! It’s coming soon! — 11/25/14)

– Second, my 2015 schedule of live workshops and online webinars is forming now. Want in? Send an email with “I want in!” as the subject line to, and I’ll add you to my newsletter list of awesome, courageous, ready-for-real-life-changes people. You’ll be the first to know what’s coming up, and you’ll have access to all the fun bonuses we can dream up in the months to come.

– Third, I have a secret for you. If you’ve read this far, you’re ready to hear it. (If there’s one thing I’ve learned in this wacky ride through life, it’s that nothing — nothing ever! — happens simply by chance. Including you reading this, right here, right now.) So write this down on a piece of paper and keep it in your pocket until you can get home and post it on your mirror or your kitchen wall, where you can see it every single day. This is the secret, the root and the fruit of all the knowledge we’re growing: You are enough. You are and always have been worthy, and precious, and enough. And so are they.

Here we go!!